How to know if a guy really likes me romantically?

If you’re left wondering whether he truly likes you, the honest answer is that he probably doesn’t. When someone is genuinely interested, their actions tend to make that clear. People, especially men, tend to express their feelings through what they do more than what they say. If someone wants to be with you, they’ll usually find a way to show it.

More importantly, it would be a shame to spend your life questioning where you stand with someone. You can’t force or persuade someone into liking you. The only thing you can do is be yourself. And if someone appreciates you for who you are, then that’s exactly how it should be.

Is our fate predetermined? 

The compatibility idea suggests that even if the world runs on cause and effect, I am still free when I act according to my own beliefs, values and desires. Maybe I didn’t choose my upbringing, my personality or the circumstances I was born into, but I do choose how I respond to them. To me, that’s where real freedom lives. I may not control every factor shaping my path, but as long as my decisions come from within rather than from force or manipulation, they are truly mine. So yes, our fate is predetermined but the actions you take determine whether that plays out in its full potential. 

How do I deal with coworkers acting unprofessionally? 

You need to find a good balance between your professional and personal life. I have many friends in my work place, but once we enter the office we know that nothing we say is anything personal. It’s like our brains switch immediately once we enter work mode. Learn to have a life outside of work. Don’t live to work. Work to live. 

How do I turn down my friend who confessed feelings for me? 

First of all, ouch. Turning down someone you already have an established relationship with can be grueling, but it’s important to understand that this person also has feelings and to move forward with grace. That being said, do not pull a Pam Beesly, “You have no idea how much your friendship means to me,” because frankly that’s probably the last thing they want to hear in that moment. In the end, they will appreciate the honesty in the future and it’s much better than lying to them and stringing them along. Be straightforward and leave nothing up for interpretation. 

This is a recurring advice column written by an anonymous editor at The Collegian.

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